Coincidentally as the new year is approaching I have found myself in a new phase of personal growth. I have been learning a lot about desires and having the courage to own my desires as equal and legitimate in comparison to any one else. This has been in large part to listening to these AMAZING podcasts by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. I highly recommend any of her podcasts, they are truly life changing! Find them here on her blog or on her Facebook page.
This has been a weird, unchartered territory experience as I learn new things about my desires, what they even are, why I have them and what is stopping me from making them happen. Sometimes I have felt that my purpose in life is to sacrifice my own desires in service of my family and others. I have felt that if I wasn’t doing this that my goodness is somehow diminished and I was being selfish. I have learned while serving others is definitely rewarding and gives us feelings of purpose and love, when we always do it at the expense of our own desires then we aren’t treating ourselves even how we would treat others, kind of a reverse golden rule thing.
As a Christian I believe that I am a child of God. He wants for me what I would want for anyone else in my family or my friends. I would always encourage my children and youth I mentor to follow their dreams, do what makes their heart happy. My dream was to be a mother and a wife from the time I was little. That dream has been realized and I am so very grateful for that. Now it is time for the next chapter, for new dreams and new growth.
In the process of finding my current life, I also became independent and entrepreneur-minded (this is what led me to my husband). I feel like I gave that up (gladly) to help support his career and have babies which is what I wanted, to be a mother. Fifteen years later I have everything I have set my mind to and I have been so blessed. But there is still a piece of me that wants to do fulfill my design dreams….and so Life Styled was born!
It’s going to be a long process of getting back into the technology market after fifteen years and I have A LOT to learn, so please be patient, but I am up for it like never before! Like Rachel Platten says in her Fight Song, “Its a fire burning in my bones…I still believe!” I am embracing what made me, ME before the husband and the kids and what continues to bring me joy everyday: Creation.
I LOVE this excerpt from an address about the work of creation, it reads:
“The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul. No matter our talents, education, backgrounds, or abilities, we each have an inherent wish to create something that did not exist before.
Everyone can create. You don’t need money, position, or influence in order to create something of substance or beauty.
Creation brings deep satisfaction and fulfillment. We develop ourselves and others when we take unorganized matter into our hands and mold it into something of beauty….
As you take the normal opportunities of your daily life and create something of beauty and helpfulness, you improve not only the world around you but also the world within you.” ~Dieter F. Utchdorf (full address here).
This makes sense, right?! Do you remember when you were little and you would create something or when your own children create something new? It’s pure joy as they want to show it, “LOOK MOM!!!! Look what I did!!!” It’s amazing. It’s because its what we were made to do and by doing so, it brings us joy.
I hope as you read this blog that you feel inspired to create something new, to beautify something, to fill your spaces with the things that reflect you and make you happy, to create good feelings and happy memories. Welcome to Life Styled!